I’m reposting this Anon question I got in a regular text post so people can reblog it if they so choose and so I can properly link it on my blog so I don’t have to answer it again.
I want to start by saying I’m really surprised that it’s taken this long for someone to ask me this question. That being said, I am only going to answer this question once, so pay attention Larry shippers of tumblr.
I have no problem with Larry as a BROMANCE. I have no problem with any of the ships as a BROMANCE, because that’s honestly all it is. LiLo is my BroTP forever, but that’s all they are. Guys who are as close as brothers giving each other brotherly love and having the time of their lives with the circumstances they’ve been given.
As for Larry as a ROMANCE…. I honestly think it has gone too far.
Sure, there was a time say about two and half years ago when the idea of Larry was cute. They were just starting out, their bromance was going strong, and both Harry and Louis made jokes about how they were more than friends. Here’s the thing though, as somebody who has grown up with 90% guy friends her entire life, I can tell you that when these two joked about being “in love” and snuggling up on each other, it was guy love, not love-love. Literally my entire life I have watched my guy friends give each other more attention and cuddle with each other more than they did with me (which was a fair amount I might add), and when you’re in a band like Harry and Louis you get close and you get close fast. It’s BROmantic and nothing else.
Personally, one of my biggest pet peeves about any fandom (not just Directioners) is hate. Louis has said before that anybody who treats the boys, their friends, or their family poorly is not a real fan and I 100% agree with this statement. As a fan, you are supposed to love them unconditionally. This means loving them if their gay, straight, single, taken or any combination of the two. This means loving them even when they do something you might not necessarily agree with, but you still support them because it’s what makes them happy. For example, I’m a Liam and Louis girl (as I’m sure you’ve probably noticed scrolling through my blog). I have been since day one. When I joined this fandom, both Liam and Louis were all ready taken by Danielle and Eleanor. Am I jealous of Danielle and Eleanor? Absolutely, they’re the luckiest girls on the planet. Do I send them hate because I’m jealous? Absolutely not. Why? Because they make Liam and Louis genuinely happy. If Danielle and Eleanor are unhappy, the boys are unhappy, and them being upset with us kills me. Liam was like a completely different person in the two-ish months that he and Dani were apart, and when he announced he was single on Gemma Cearney’s show I almost cried because of how sad he sounded. I worship the ground that Dani and El walk on not only because they seem like the sweetest girls pretty much ever, but because they make my boys happy. The way I see it, if I can’t make them happy I’m glad Danielle and Eleanor do. I ship whatever makes the boys (any of them) happy.
But back to Larry.
Sending hate to Louis, Eleanor, Stan, Louis’ mother or anyone else who sticks up for Elounor is absolutely rude and terrible and if you think cyber bullying is the answer to getting what you want, then you need to reassess your life.
Let’s take a moment to compare Louis Tomlinson and Jaymi Hensley (Union J). During X Factor, Jaymi publicly came out so that he could happily continue his relationship with his partner. He didn’t want to lie about who he was to his bandmates or his fans just to uphold some sort of image. He is proud of who he is and he’ll talk to anyone who will listen about his partner. I think it’s been pretty clear since day numero uno that Louis Tomlinson is going to do and say pretty much whatever he wants. He doesn’t hold back, he’s not afraid to stand up for himself, and not once has he apologized for who he is. Simply based on his personality, Louis does not strike me as the type of person who would stand for management telling him he had to “act straight” and “get a girlfriend” to cover up his sexuality. As a matter of fact, Louis strikes me as the type of guy that if management ever tried to do that to him he would give them the big “fuck you” and come out just to spite them. This is the 21st century where we worship/still want to bang people like Neil Patrick Harris and Matt Bomer (who are both out, proud, essentially married, and have families). We worship people like Lady GaGa who preach individuality and free love. There is absolutely no reason for 1D’s management to need to cover up someone’s sexuality because they worry it would hurt record sales. This fandom has made it clear we love our boys gay or straight, so why force them to hide it? It just doesn’t add up.
Let’s say, just for a minute, that Louis Tomlinson is in fact gay. I personally do not think he is, but just for a moment let’s hypothetically say he is in fact gay. One Direction has been around for almost three years. For almost three years, people have been questioning his sexuality every damn day. For almost three years, he’s vehemently stressed that he is in fact 100% straight. If one thing is true about Directioners, it is that a lot of you are vindictive as hell and most of you that are vindictive are the ones who tweet Louis every day telling him to “come out already,” calling Eleanor a beard, and overall sending hate when you feel you’ve been wronged. Along with striking me as the type of person who doesn’t take shit from anyone, Louis also strikes me as the type of guy who doesn’t like admitting he’s wrong. Could you imagine the sorts of messages he would have to endure for basically forever if he were to turn around and say “yes, I am in fact gay?” It would be enough to break even the strongest person, I think. If I were him, I’d be even less inclined to turn around and come out now than I would have been almost three years ago simply because I’d been preaching my heterosexuality for nearly three years. I will also add that even if Louis were gay, I don’t think he would date Harry out of a professional courtesy. These boys have big dreams and they want their career to last as long as possible. Dating your bandmate means the potential of having a big, nasty break up which could potentially ruin the band. Those boys are not going to do anything to jeopardize their career. They’ve worked too hard.
On to his friendship with Harry. While I’m sure it has not changed behind closed doors, in front of cameras or in interviews anyboy can see that Louis and Harry distance themselves from each other. Not because management is making them, but in an effort to make Louis’ life a little bit easier. I would be willing to go as far as to venture a guess that it was Harry “I prioritize everyone over myself” Styles’ idea. Because every time they do or say anything even remotely homoerotic, Larry shippers flood Louis, Eleanor, and Harry with tweets, they start rumors with their latest theories, and it usually ends up being this big drama over one glance between friends.
At the end of the day, gay or not, the idea of Larry Stylinson is keeping the boys from being happy. Though he’s never really spoken out about it, I reckon it annoys Harry, but he loves the fans so much and doesn’t want to do or say anything to hurt them that he will never lash out because he has the grace and maturity of a forty year old (aka why people like Caroline Flack were attracted to him when he was only seventeen). We all know Louis is 3000% done with the Larry bullshit (his words, not mine). To my memory, Niall and Zayn have never mentioned it, but Liam has. Regardless of how some of them have treated his sisters and his girlfriend, Liam Payne loves his fans absolutely and 100% unconditionally. If Liam Payne is scolding fans, you know he’s really pissed off and that takes a lot. They call him Daddy Direction for a reason, because when Liam Payne is disappointed in someone, you feel like you’ve disappointed your father or your brother. They all tired of how it’s effecting Louis (and probably Harry). Honestly, I commend Eleanor Calder for being as poised, gracious, and classy as she is, because if I had strangers telling me my boyfriend was gay and I was a beard every single day I wouldn’t be so kind. I’d probably have a similar reaction to Louis’.
I leave you with this, Anon: What if it were you? How would you feel if every day you had literally millions of strangers trying to bully you into being something you’re not? What if every day you had literally millions of strangers angry with you and disagreeing with you because you’re happy? Like I said, I commend Eleanor, and I commend Louis, because I don’t think I could handle it.
There you have it. That’s why I don’t like Larry Stylinson. If you’re a friendly Larry shipper who quietly reblogs photos of Harry and Louis, I have no problem with it, but the second you start posting conspiracies and “proof” they’re together and “proof” Eleanor is a beard, etc. I will unfollow you. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, and I know that, but that doesn’t mean I have to like it and if I can avoid it, I will because I genuinely believe the conspiracies and “proof” are doing nothing but hurting real, live, living, breathing people.
Sep 23, 2012
AT 2:30 SHE DOES THE SAME ACCENT, PROVING THAT THIS WASN’T TAKING A JAB AT HARREH… IT WAS TAKING A JAB AT JAKE GYLLENHAAL. PLEASE FEEL STUPID NOW DIRECTIONERS!
THANK YOU OMG
People think she’s getting back at Adele from the Golden Globes by using a British accent in her performance?!GUESS WHAT?? WHILE YOU’RE SITTING AT HOME MAKING UP STUPID THINGS AND HATING ON HER, SHE’S AT THE GRAMMYS AND OPENING THE SHOW. SO CLEARLY SHE DOESN’T GIVE A FUCK!
Do us all a favor and go build a bridge and then get the fuck over it
We just won a Grammy for Safe and Sound!!!!